Two ways of thinking in life (Comment on mdo reader experience)

 mensdayout.com recently posted experience of a boy getting married. Many people could easily recognize RED flags and suggested run. I am not sure if they have bitter experiences in life, just like me, or they were born wise. 

I don't know why my mind always try to defend ppl. I always take the kindest, most compassionate view. 

See my defense - the first noble way of thinking of a foolish idealist

1) it seems she is the only daughter of her parents or parents only have daughter. They are very simpleton village people who always felt sad that they have not got any son and would need to pay dowry. They always secretly hoped that when they will marry their daughter, they will get her weighed in gold. That's cute. They are just asking me for this small amount of jewellery of few lacs so that they can brag that their daughter worth gold is getting her due. I am sure they are just going to gift it back to my wife. They look such  simple people.

2) her father doesn't let her talk or she doesn't talk because "traditions". Umm, very nice!

3) it's just cold and cough. Are you mad? Everytime someone coughs, are you going to play anand movie and get lungs checked for fourth stage cancer? What's this full body checkup you go for ? It seems low erection is really bothering you.

4) obviously, don't you know what kanyadan is. She is yours now and your responsibility. You killer of Hindu culture if you even doubt that. Be a man, you poo...see!

5) damn you financial scientist, home loan is an asset if you take tax benefits and get a good deal. The girl is really smart. Don't miss this one. After all, you don't want to be hero of the movie 40 yr old Virgin - part 2.

6) asking about what they can do for you is you just being greedy. Dowry is such a menace in society and people like you should be shot dead first and then put in jail. 

And now the other side - the side of truth - the foolish idealist got shot and wake up from his funeral coz' no one was there.

1. Women = worship. Daughter = gold. Nopes. Many streetwomen, very dirty creatures like tadka, pootna literally killing children are roaming around. You've never seen them. They are too money minded. No person with iota of self respect will demand jewellery like this. No simple person can be so bold to demand anything from OP. 

2. Those days are gone when marriages used to be forever. Divorces are skyrocketing. It might take you five mins to get frustrated with her. Do you want to regret rest of your life wondering kaash 30min Baat kar leta, sab pata chal jata mujhe, her manners and etiquettes and class of this low class worm.

3. Seedha ladki ko bolne ka, pura package karwane ka. Hiv bhi. Bolo Risk nai le sakte.

4. If marriage falls, would she still be your responsibility. Check asset and liability of family, how much she earn, how much she spends, what is her idea about money. You can't feed her for the rest of your life while she can abandon you within few days. Don't go keeping snakes and roadside elephants as pet in the name of be a man and die young like many men do.

5. Kaunsa home, kab liya, kitne Mein liya, is it joint property, are you going to stay in it or she? Talk money with wife at length for hours and days until you're convinced you can talk with this person when she is your liability.

6. Learn laws, dowry, dp act. Make a list of all gifts exchanged. Be careful. If you're marrying, you're asking to get screwed. I don't have a solution, sorry. Rip. 

PS: If you still believe, the first  version is right and you should think more and be positive in life and take risks or listen to your heart and go ahead with faith, then don't blame yourself. You're lucky you were always protected from those man-eater zombies. People who are screaming 'Run' just have better understanding of world and better experience with zombies than you and I, after all, they could summarize all of this in one word in one second.